INFORMATION FOR PARENTS WITH STUDENT ATHLETES
THREE STEP PROCEDURE FOR COMMUNICATING WITH A COACH:
- If appropriate, talk with your son/daughter about your question/concern. What is your child’s perspective? Can your child solve the problem by himself/herself?
- Set up a meeting with the coach if you still have a question/concern. This meeting remains as an informational meeting where you can ask questions, listen, and have a discussion. Remember that the coach makes decisions for the good of the team based on practice, ability, attitude, and chemistry.
- If a question/concern remains, set up a meeting with the athletic director, coach and yourself. Do not go to the district or an administrator. They will redirect the problem back to the athletic director. Our athletic director is James Donoho: email@example.com
THINGS THAT ARE “OFF LIMITS” FOR DISCUSSION:
- Playing Time
- Game Strategies (Play calling)
- Other Student-Athletes
- Be a fan of everyone on the team
- Respect the decision of officials
- Respect other fans, coaches and student-athletes
- Talk to your child if he/she has any questions/concerns and, if necessary answer them or contact the coach through the designated athletic department procedures (see above)
- Keep any negative thoughts about the coach, the program, or the teammates to yourself
- Do not talk to coaches on game days about a complaint
- Understand the coaches’ responsibility is to make certain students are safe and become better people on and off the field
- Be supportive of your child
- Be supportive and have a good attitude
- Support your teammates
- Work and play hard
- If there are any questions/concerns, ask the coach
- Know and follow school and team rules
- Challenge yourself as an athlete, student, and have general courtesy
- Meet classroom expectations
- Notify the coach of any scheduling conflicts in advance
- Talk to the coach about any special concerns
Dear Parent/Guardian and Student-Athlete:
Over the past few years it has come to our attention that some parents and students have serious misconceptions regarding the high school competitive athletic program, as well as with the lines of communication between parents, athletes and coaches. Hopefully, this letter will help you understand how a competitive program, like Don Lugo, is conducted, know our expectations and basic information regarding team operations.
- In each program, coaches are hired by the school district to be responsible for participant selections. Criterion for selection is established solely by the head coach (often with input from the entire coaching staff). Team selection, practices and decisions regarding game situations are the responsibility of the coaching staff.
- Please understand that when your child tries out for a team that there is a possibility that he or she may not be selected. If selected, both you and your child should be prepared to accept placement at any team level (i.e. Freshman, Reserve, Junior Varsity or Varsity). If a student quits because he/she she was not placed on the team he/she thought he/she should have been, that student will have taken away someone else’s opportunity to participate on the team.
- Participation in a club or outside organization does not guarantee any player a spot on any high school team. While we believe players can gain valuable experience outside of the school athletic program, neither parents nor students should count on this type of participation to “guarantee” a spot on the high school team.
- In order to make a Varsity team as a senior, a player must be an outstanding athlete and play a position the team needs. Underclass student-athletes possessing these same qualities have the same opportunity to make a team as the senior does. Because of our team structure (Freshman, Reserve, Junior Varsity or Varsity) there will always be more underclass players than upper class players in the total program. At selection time, it will be the coaches’ decision, being a senior is not a guarantee.
- A main goal of a competitive athletic program is to put the most talented members of the team in competition to win the contest. Starting positions and playing time are not guaranteed. Each member of a team is very valuable to the team’s overall progress.
By being a member of a team, regardless of time spent in actual competition, a person can learn many valuable lessons. Among them are the following: citizenship, sportsmanship, appreciating good play by an opponent, working together to meet team goals, responsibility and commitment to the team, school pride, loyalty, placing the team above self, learning to accept instruction and constructive criticism, respect for others, winning and losing with dignity, self-control, and being responsible for one’s own actions. Each student should have a personal improvement as one of his or her goals.
If you have any questions regarding the process, feel free to address these questions directly to the head coach. Please call or email the coach to make an appointment outside of school, practice or game time. If you have further questions that the coach has not been able to answer, please contact the athletic director, James Donoho.